“Change Your Thinking, Change How You Feel” by Dr. John Manni, Psychologist
November 23, 2011 by John Manni & Doug Barton
In my blogs I have often referred to the impact thinking has on our emotions and behavior. perspective, I like to define thinking as talking to yourself. (You know, that inner voice that only you can hear.) If your thinking is faulty, it to negative emotions and self-defeating behaviors such as avoidance,procrastination, anxiety and depression.
Let’s take one common thinking error we might make. We sometimes think about events in all or nothing terms. Everything is either black or white; yet life events are usually more complex. Examples of this type of thinking error might include “What a loser I turned out to be,“ or, “I’ll never get another job.” Thinking this way can lead to the self-defeating conclusion: “I might aswell give up looking for a job.”
It is critical that you catch these thinking errors quickly and analyze them. Does the evidence support your conclusion? For example, if you can list some successes in your career, then you’re conclusionthat you are a loser is not supported and therefore inaccurate. Can you step back and evaluate your decision to stop looking for a job? Is stopping in your best interest? It can be helpful to write down a statement that is more accurate on an index card that you can use to remind yourself whenever the unsupported thought pops up again. It might be something like, “I am not a loser! My career was successful until this recession. It will take time, but I will find a job.”