It’s no surprise if you feel that way. Getting laid off is a harsh blow to the strongest among us. When we experience a devastating event, we walk around telling ourselves “This is terrible, this is horrible!” And you know what? It’s that kind of thinking that gets us into trouble. It’s a simple fact that how we think about job loss (or any event) influences how we feel about it and what we’re going to do about it.
So instead of walking around kicking yourself, a good first step is to stop believing everything you think. Instead, evaluate the situation and ask yourself, “Is this the end of the world? Is this the most terrible thing that could happen to me?” Thinking that focuses on everything negative leads to fear and depression. Such fear can become overwhelming and stop you in your tracks. As a result, you’ll have a hard time doing all the things you need to do in order to move forward with your life. It’s important to tell yourself, “Losing my job stinks but I can survive. The recession will not last forever.” Failure only defines you if you stop trying!
Changing how you think is not easy but it can be done. It takes practice every day. You have to catch yourself having negative thoughts. Write them down. Evaluate them. Then write down a more realistic and helpful thought. Instead of thinking, “I should have seen this job coming to an end,” say to yourself, “The financial experts in Washington didn’t see it coming. Neither did the genius who ran the company.”
Minoru Yoshida holds the world record for non-stop push-ups at 10,507. We bet it took daily practice to achieve this feat. So changing your thinking takes the same kind of persistence. While it might not be easy, practicing changing how you think will help you survive unemployment.
We’d like to hear how you turned around a negative thought.